(Source: youjustinspiredme, via stephysturttt824)
This is how we go on: one day a time, one meal at a time, one pain at a time, one breath at a time. Dentists go on one root canal at a time; boat builders go on one hull at a time. If you write books, you go on one page at a time. We turn from all we know and all we fear. We study catalogues, watch football games, choose Sprint over AT&T. We count the birds in the sky and will not turn from the window when we hear the footsteps behind as something comes up the hall; we say yes, I agree that clouds often look like other things - fish and unicorns and men on horseback - but they are really only clouds. Even when the lightning flashes inside them we say they are only clouds and turn our attention to the next meal, the next pain, the next breath, the next page. This is how we go on.
Stephen King (via embracinginfinity)
(Source: verydreadfullynervous, via escapethepeople)
When I was a student at Cambridge I remember an anthropology professor holding up a picture of a bone with 28 incisions carved in it. “This is often considered to be man’s first attempt at a calendar” she explained. She paused as we dutifully wrote this down. ‘My question to you is this – what man needs to mark 28 days? I would suggest to you that this is woman’s first attempt at a calendar.’ It was a moment that changed my life. In that second I stopped to question almost everything I had been taught about the past. How often had I overlooked women’s contributions?
Sandi Toksvig (via 0rgasms, learninglog) (via liquidinterpretations) (via artsexbooksandpolitics) (via amostpeculiarman)
[trigger warning: suicide, abuse, rape] more on that last post
if a survivor does an awesome job of being “human” and lives a very productive and enjoyable life, but then something goes wrong and they decide to kill themselves, they still won.
if a survivor does as much as help even one other survivor realize what is going on and find something better for themselves, they win.
if a survivor doesn’t have a very enjoyable life but they are still hanging on, even a little, they are still winning. because the kind of people who abuse and hurt others are interested in the total destruction and annihilation of their victims.
and if a survivor doesn’t care about winning that’s okay too. because sometimes the game is definitely constructed by the abuser and to not play is the best option. and sometimes the definition of what it means to be “human” is decided by abusive people.
also, not everything has to be a game. life can just be.
(via secretsofthedisabled)
This is my story.: The dictionary defines:
1. Emotional Abuse: The debasement of a person’s feelings that causes the individual to perceive himself or herself as inept, not cared for, and worthless.[1]
2. Verbal Abuse: A form of emotional abuse consisting of the use of abusive and demeaning language with a spouse, child, or elder,…
(Source: letterstotan)
TW: Suicide, Self-harm, Sexual Assault
I’m not the prettiest girl out there, I know so focus on the butterfly on my wrist. I’ve never been an open book about my story, but oh well.
I’m a girl that last year suffered from self harm. I wish I never did it, but I have to forgive myself.
Before I go into my story, I want to say that I’m living breathing proof that it truly does get better.
My story involves my best friend who committed suicide my sophomore year. I find it my duty to share her story, since she can’t.
I want to spread her legacy. She’s a big part of me. Her father was a drunk, and would hurt her, even as a little kid.
Her mother was always working, so Lindsay would often spend many days at my house.
She was a ray of sunshine to everyone who knew her, and kept her darkness to herself. She self harmed and had bulimia and anorexia. She developed these after a devastating break up with someone she truly loved.
I know, it’s a stupid reason to kill yourself. She suffered day after day. Why did I not step in? Because she never let you knew she was hurting.
I’m not going to go into her death, or details of it because it brings me to tears. I will tell you that she overdosed on Tylenol and I found her in her living room.
Words cannot express how badly I want to bring her back. I miss her so much, and I wish she could share her story.
My mission now is to help everyone who is like her. I want to make it clear that it DOES GET BETTER! And you should be alive to see it.
My story if anyone’s still reading:
This guy I dated kept pushing me into sex, and I’m so glad I said no looking back on it.
He’d get drunk, and hit me. I thought I deserved it.
He made my life a living hell last year with him continually taunting me calling me all the degrading terms in the book.
He and his friends assaulted me, and told everyone else. You would think someone would tell and help you.
I’m no longer angry that they chose to do nothing and let the bullying continue in class.
They made me feel like I was nothing, and that I didn’t deserved to be loved. That I would never find someone, and I was never good enough.
They made me feel like giving up. And I slipped into this darkness where I’d cut myself. You don’t see any scars on my arms because I didn’t want anyone to see.
So they’re on my legs, but I’m still self conscious. And I reported the crime, and my ex boyfriend sexually assaulted me two days later.
For a long time, I couldn’t talk about it. I believed I deserved it. I believed that I was an ugly girl.
I went to counseling that summer, and I finally looked around at the people who loved me. My family shows me everyday that I am loved.
I met someone amazing who proved my ex wrong. I’m a beautiful girl, and I have so many lovable qualities.
Everyone has faults, but don’t ever let someone poke and try to make you not see your beautiful qualities.
The butterfly project is my way of slowly healing, and proving that I am stronger than what happened to me.
Q: I don't care if you are a democrat or republican, this applies to all of us. Obama has helped make some change. The new law now states "the penetration, no matter how slight, of the vagina or anus with any body part or object," without the consent of the victim. Also constituting rape under the new definition is "oral penetration by a sex organ of another person" without consent. This is the new FBI law. This is now worded to include more people.
bjorkoning
I <3 this, all politics aside, this is an amazing thing.
It should have been law since laws were made to begin with.
